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You can gain self-confidence by taking the next 3 steps I will discuss in this article below.

But First, Let Me Introduce Myself:

My name is Julia Maria Nica, I include my middle name in everything because as a teenager. Growing up I hated my full name. I avoided it because I didn’t like the name I was given in this life and much more. As I grew older, I began to understand acceptance and self-love. I learned a lot about myself, and others, and transformed my life by quitting smoking, overcoming an eating disorder, learning to love my body, and took the lead in my life by becoming the creator of it.

My passions are growth in the human experience, health, being out in nature, and creating a life that I and the people around me love.

You can follow more of my journey on Instagram by following Julia Maria Nica.

About Commitments

Commitments are a big part of building your self-confidence and self-trust, Let’s cover the 3 key steps to building yourself up so that you can take on more and believe in yourself when getting into action.

The 12 Ways Your Commitments Impact You

Keeping your word plays a significant role in building self-trust, and self-confidence for several reasons here is how commitments will impact your life:

1. Consistency

When you consistently keep your word, you demonstrate to yourself that you can be counted on. This reliability forms the basis of trust, both in yourself and in relationships with others.

2. Reliability

Following through on promises, big or small, builds a track record of dependability. Each instance reinforces the belief that you are trustworthy. Every time you drop one of your commitments the people who are experiencing you in the situation will trust you less.

3. Integrity

Honoring your commitments is an expression of integrity. Keeping to your commitments aligns your actions with your values, creating a sense of internal coherence.

4. Alignment with Values

This alignment between what you say and what you do strengthens your belief in your moral and ethical standards. We focus on core values as a principal builder of confidence. Staying in alignment with your commitments helps build your self-trust.

5. Confidence

Successfully keeping your word boosts your confidence. You prove to yourself that you can set goals and achieve them, fostering a sense of competence and capability.

6. Self-Esteem

Each kept promise contributes to positive self-esteem. You feel good about yourself, knowing you are a person of your word. Just like you can build up your self-esteem by following through on your commitments, you can also break down your self-esteem by not being a person of your word.

7. Reputation

A reputation for reliability enhances how you are perceived by others, which in turn can bolster your self-trust. If others see you as trustworthy, it reinforces your own self-perception.

8. Relationships

Trustworthy behavior strengthens your relationships, providing a support network that affirms your self-worth and reliability. How do you feel when people say they’re going to do something and they let you down, or bail on you? Perhaps this is something your parents do as an example. This also is true for your interpersonal relationship.

9. Accountability and Responsibility

  • Accountability: By keeping your word, you hold yourself accountable. This accountability is a cornerstone of self-discipline, which is crucial for building self-trust.
  • Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your promises shows that you take yourself and your commitments seriously, reinforcing self-trust.

10. Reduced Anxiety

Knowing you will follow through reduces anxiety about whether or not you will meet your commitments. This calm assurance enhances your overall sense of security and trust in yourself.

11. Doubt

Each promise kept dispels doubt about your abilities and reliability. Over time, this leads to a more robust sense of self-trust.

12. Enhances Emotional Awareness

  • Recognizing Emotions: The process of keeping your word requires you to stay in tune with your emotions. For example, understanding why you feel stressed about a commitment can help you manage similar situations in the future.
  • Building Emotional Intelligence: By being mindful of how fulfilling commitments affect your emotions, you can develop greater emotional intelligence. This awareness helps you navigate your feelings more effectively.


How To Self-Reflect, Adjust, and Learn from Your Experiences:

  1. Self-Reflection: Regularly take time to reflect on your commitments and actions. Assess how well you’ve kept your word and identify areas for improvement. This ongoing self-awareness helps you stay aligned with your values and goals.
  2. Adjustment: Use your reflections to make necessary adjustments. If you find that you often struggle to keep certain types of promises, consider adjusting your approach. This might involve setting more realistic goals, improving time management, or seeking support when needed.
  3. Learning from Mistakes: Understand that everyone makes mistakes. When you fail to keep your word, analyze what went wrong without harsh self-judgment. Use these insights to improve future commitments.

By consistently keeping your commitments, you build a foundation of self-confidence that can enhance various aspects of your life.

Commitments are a big part of building your self-confidence and self-trust, Let’s cover the 3 key steps to building yourself up so that you can take on more and believe in yourself when getting into action.

The Reality Of Commitments In Our World:

People in our modern society say lots of things but do far less than they say they’ll do. When someone has excuses, they are always excused, when someone says “oh I’m so sorry, I double-booked myself.”

It’s generally uncomfortable to hold them accountable by asking them to take a look at how they are setting up their life, and recognizing the impact their poor planning has on the people they love. It’s often scary to speak up when someone is acting out of alignment with themselves and being dismissive and careless about other people.

Here’s the thing, it’s good to respect someone else’s time, by holding to a commitment. Holding to that commitment also builds healthy human interaction and confidence.

Step 1. Hold Your Word To The Highest Honor:

Your word means something, and it has an impact on your life. Don’t forget to give it that credit.

The spoken word is impactful. If you want to gain more confidence, make sure that each word that comes out of your mouth is something you want and can commit to.

All words we speak have intention, and those intentions have an impact on your life. Unfortunately, our society doesn’t openly promote the power of words. It’s common and trending to make plans & then follow up with being busy. What’s acceptable on the level of society and how people are being on a large scale is the wrecker of confidence & self-trust.

“Do what you say and say only what you’ll do.”

If you do what you say and say only what you’ll do, something will shift for you and you’ll feel more powerful in your stance and your life. Hold integrity as one of your highest core values and give each one of your words power. If you want to gain confidence. There are 3 core points of gaining confidence and maintaining it in your life.

Step 2. Commit and Keep Your Commitments

Commitments are a powerful confidence booster only when you do what you say you’ll do. Committing is fully giving yourself intentionally to something.


This is powerful because commitments build self-trust. The more you trust yourself, the more you’ll believe that risks are possible. You’ll make and take more risks.

The ability to take risks is one of the main components of success and confidence. A part of commitment is KEEPING all of your commitments. Doing as you say you’ll do.

To start, make small commitments & make sure to keep them.

Make it a DO-OR-DIE…

This means “I will show up for my commitment & the only reason why I couldn’t make it is if I’m dead. “DO OR DIE” It’s powerful when you commit to something FULL IN.

100% responsible for your word & your commitment. 100% showing up, regardless of what happens in life. Follow this concept and you will gain confidence.

Step 3. Reschedule All Commitments

If you can’t make it, to keep your commitment in integrity makes sure to reschedule the commitment. Rescheduling your commitments, will help you gain confidence and build self-trust.

This means you say something specific, and along the lines of “I’m so sorry, my husband is in the hospital for a personal emergency. I cannot make the meeting. Can we reschedule for Sunday at 12:45 pm?”

If your not sick puking, bleeding out, in the hospital, or dealing with a family emergency, you are just making excuses.

I promise you that, commitment followed by excuses for why you can’t compete on your commitment, is a perfect recipe for NO CONFIDENCE, NO SELF-TRUST, & LOTS OF self-doubts.

Keep up with each and every one of your commitments.

If you want to gain confidence, clean up every one of your commitments.

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How we think and see the world determines all of our results. Those of us that do the work and audit our thoughts breeze through life’s challenges. These are all confidence building perspectives that you can obtain. If you want to breeze through your life’s challenges and be less reactive.  I can help!

Julia Maria Nica

Life & Dream Coach

Julia grew up in Vancouver, B.C. She immigrated from Romania to Canada in the ’90s with her family. Julia decided to find her passion. Just like many women, she experienced her own self-image challenges. She came up with the idea of The YOU Series as a part of unraveling the pain of her life. Today she focuses on building The You Series, coaching her clients, and creating new content.

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