Self-love has become such a huge subject in the online space. As it’s become more openly accepter to prioritize yourself and love yourself. The purpose of this work has really gotten lost and left unclarified. So let’s get into that here in this article!
We are going to focus on 4 ways to love yourself first and how to start feeling good about who you are.
What is Self-Love:
Let’s define self-love…
It is the “regard for one’s own well-being and happiness” it also is “an appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue” and “proper regard for and attention to one’s own happiness or well-being”
This means that your well-being is at the top of your importance list. You stop giving yourself the attention to your own happiness. You’re actively learning to appreciate yourself & accept what/who you are.
Here at The You Series, we encourage self-love so that you can fill your cup full, that way you can in turn you can serve other people who you love more fully. Life will give you the most when you’re in service of others.
There are two ways that you build self-love and this is what more people don’t talk about when they talk about self-love. Yes, self-love is taking a nice bath, or taking yourself on a date. It is also seeing a therapist or taking responsibility for your triggers. Looking for healing in regards to past trauma. Having an uncomfortable conversation that needs to be had with someone.
Let’s look at 4 simple ways that you can deepen your self-love with yourself…
1.Talk to Yourself with Love and Respect:
This first step is crucial because you can’t begin to love yourself unless you fully recognize the value that you are bringing to the world. Realize that by simply being you, you are filling an important role in this life, a role that only YOU can fill.
With this knowledge, start talking to yourself like how you would talk to your best friend, a family member, or someone who you admire as a mentor. Change your language and start to speak powerful phrases that will positively impact you.
Talk to yourself with love and respect, and be kind and compassionate towards yourself. Give positive affirmations throughout the day whether it be verbally or in writing.
Make time for self-reflection and acknowledge all the great things about your character, personality, and achievements. See what makes YOU special! Learn what your limiting beliefs are and get clear on what your core values are.
2. Learn To Accept Who You Are:
Love yourself first so you can love others well. Accept who you are and use it to spread goodness in the world. Respect yourself and respect others, too. Set goals for yourself that give you a sense of accomplishment. Learn from your mistakes and don’t be too hard on yourself when things don’t go according to plan.
Take care of your body:
Start by eating right, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly so that you have the energy to meet challenges with confidence. Reach out to others – taking the time to listen is as valuable as speaking up about what matters most to you.
Give to others:
Be giving of your time, your talents or a monetary donation will help someone in need have a better life. Helping others is a great way to feel good about yourself since it allows you to make a positive difference in someone’s life while also helping yourself at the same time! You’ll be happier when giving than receiving anyway!
Smile more often:
Smiling can lower stress levels in both people who see them (like co-workers) or receive them (such as friends). Remember compliments are free but they’re priceless: take some time every day just say nice things about people around you whether it’s family members or classmates at school; this will make everyone feel valued which means happiness for all involved parties!
3. Indulge in Some Self-Care:
How about a relaxing bath with candles and essential oils? Meditation? Or, if you’d prefer to disappear into nature, go on a long walk in a beautiful spot. Channel your creative self through art or music. Read a book or write in your journal. Do anything that makes you happy or helps ground you.
The idea is to do something nice for yourself so that you can feel good and confident about who you are as an individual. A huge part of that is also understanding yourself more.
4. Smile Lots, Be Helpful, Give Compliments:
Radiate good energy. Smile at others, be helpful, and give compliments.
The more positive you are as a person, the better you will feel about yourself. There are several ways to radiate good energy throughout your day:
Smile at people—strangers or friends—and try to make eye contact with them too.
Say hello when you pass someone on the street. Or say goodbye if they’re walking away from you. This is especially important if they’ve done something nice for you, like holding open a door, but it’s also a great way to brighten someone’s day if they’re going through some tough times or just having a bad day in general!
Be helpful whenever possible;
Don’t hesitate to offer help even if it seems like there might not be enough time left in your schedule for another person’s needs right now (because sometimes helping someone else takes up space we had reserved). If this happens often enough over time then maybe it’s worth considering whether that person needs more than just an hour of your attention every week or two.
Maybe they deserve more consideration outside of these instances when their problems need solving immediately.
It’s hard to know without asking so I would suggest talking with them about how much support they require outside those times when things seem urgent–they may need more than what we’re currently giving right now!”
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How we think and see the world determines all of our results. Those of us that do the work and audit our thoughts breeze through life’s challenges. These are all confidence building perspectives that you can obtain. If you want to breeze through your life’s challenges and be less reactive. I can help!
Julia Maria Nica
Life & Dream Coach
Julia grew up in Vancouver, B.C. She immigrated from Romania to Canada in the ’90s with her family. Julia decided to find her passion. Just like many women, she experienced her own self-image challenges. She came up with the idea of The YOU Series as a part of unraveling the pain of her life. Today she focuses on building The You Series, coaching her clients, and creating new content.