Let’s talk about how you can redirect your negative thoughts out of a slump and how you can start creating healthy thought patterns. Feeling stuck in a pile of emotion is a normal phase in life many of us go through. I will be talking about how to redirect your negative thoughts of of feeling sad, depressed, unhappy. 

There are 3 phases steps a person needs to go through to slowly pick themselves up from a very common state of mild depression almost every individual experiences at one point or another of their life! Talking more about how to change the mindset from negative to positive is the first step.

We all run out of fuel, life gets the best of us and sometimes we find ourselves in misty darkness, completely at a loss of direction, satisfaction and in spirit. It feels as though nothing will bring us back. At this point, the memory of excitement, passion and happiness will usually seem long lots. The reality of feeling fulfilled with purpose is hard to grasp again. Fear and self-doubt usually place us there. The circulation of negative thoughts and the lack of confidence that is slowly slipping away nearly becoming invisible and unrecognizable is usually our guide slowly but persistently showing us the way into the misty darkness of our minds.

The 5 Thieves Of Joy:

• fear
• self-doubt
• harsh self-criticism
• lack of confidence
• insecurity

Core work that you can do to change your mood:

• Be grateful – start to count your blessings. Having gratitude is so important for our well being.
• Having self-love, filling yourself up to the point where your naturally giving love to others.
• Being abundant in your perspective – we talk more about abundance and scarcity inside out coaching calls. 
• Do the interwork – take notes, answer the questions.
• Talk to an expert, coach, counselor, mentor.

The more you have a prosperous mindsets, and surround yourself with reminders, great quotes, healthy people, the better you will feel, and you will start to move away from the self-doubt, negative thoughts, and fear that you experience. 

How you think has a big impact on how you feel about yourself. Some people have developed from childhood in unhealthy environments where they learn to talk down to themselves and be unkind to themselves.

Start tuning into your internal dialogue.

5 steps to audit your thoughts:

1. Where is this negative thought coming from?

Try to pinpoint the emotion that’s hiding behind the thought? It could be fear, worry, doubt and more.

2. What is this negative thought trying to protect me from?

Most of the things we think about are moving us towards protection and safety and away from pain. Even our negative thoughts. So it’s really important to look into what the negative thought is trying to protect you from.

3. What will my future look like if I hold on to this negative thought?

This is huge, so many people forget to future cast and they don’t take a look at the results they’ll get from holding on to their negative thoughts or making poor choices. Start getting in the habit of assessing your results long term. What will it look like in the future for you?

4. Make a choice, stick or ditch the negative thought.

Once you’ve accessed the thought, the choice is yours. How you move forward is in your control fully.

Internal dialogues and statements you can use: 

• “Cancel, cancel, cancel.”
• “I choose to be indifferent to this thought.”
• “No thanks, I’m not claiming this thought as my own or a good idea. good bye”

5. BONUS TIP: Think about repeating a new thought that serves you in the situation.

What would make the future work out for you? What thoughts would get you to the results you crave for? Write down what thoughts would serve you in your situation.

The more you have a prosperous mindsets, and surround yourself with reminders, great quotes, healthy people, the better you will feel, and you will start to move away from the self-doubt, negative thoughts, and fear that you experience. 

Understand that you are at a wall, understand your fear and self-doubt, understand that there will always be a circulation of negative thoughts, know that the “lack of confidence” only has one goal and that is to see you reach ultimate insecurity. Understand that you are not alone, this is a cycle that has been experienced by everyone and the only true cure is within you! With a little focus and understanding of yourself, the cycle can be broken! This is the first step how to change your negative thoughts to positive thoughts. Well isn’t that a relief!

4 healthy questions to answer in order:

1.  Am I working towards my goals/dreams?
2. Am I respecting and honoring those around me?
3. Do I allow other’s successes to inspire me?
4. What is my inspiration and drive to move forward?

The only true shift can happen within you, as you answer these questions and build new desires around how you can to live your life.

The first step is to understand that there is an unhealthy mindset and a healthy mindset. Every conversation we have in our mind with ourselves can go one of 2 ways.. the healthy way or the unhealthy way. It’s a 2-way street. Making healthy choices does not happen overnight for an individual. Time and learning have always been our 2 biggest assets. Understanding this is a great component to the first steps on how to change the mindset from negative to positive.

This concept will help you become familiar and comfortable with failure, things don’t always work out and that’s okay. We are all on our own journeys of finding out what doesn’t work and what does work.

Trial:

Work on a new approach in your life or practice a new habit. Test out a new solution on dealing with a demanding family member or use a different response to your boss at work.

Error:

There will always be road bumps and you will always stumble across errors. the errors are when what you trialed isn’t working out for you. If you learn how to navigate the errors in your life gracefully you’re journey will be less bumpy.

Finally Redirect:

Try something new, if you’ve found that in 3 separate occasions… something didn’t work out for you. Focus on experimenting with new approaches  and focus in a new direction.

It’s okay not to succeed. Life is just that a cycle…  Trial -> Error -> Redirect -> embrace this cycle use it to your advantage knowing that it will come. It will look like this…

1. Trial -> Error ->

2. Trial -> Error ->

3. Trial -> Error ->

Finally Redirect ->

Focus on a having a healthy mindset though out your journey. Always double-check to see if you’re repeating a lot of negative thoughts in your mind and be mindful of what you tell yourself.

Relax, find a self-care activity that brings you peace. Peace is such a powerful tool when it comes to thinking clearly and making the right decisions in your life. Have hope and faith in your process! Make that first step to take your happiness back.

Just remember…

There are two main mindsets:

1. The Happy Mindset: The mindset that focus on what CAN work for you.
2. The Unhappy Mindset: The mindset that focus on what CAN’T work for you.

Embrace the knowledge that you learn along the way. Do the work.

Choose your mindset wisely and work on it. Make sure to always audit your negative thoughts. A shift of words can make all the difference when it comes to having that conversation internally with yourself. Your internal dialogue matters.

Faith and hope are at the core of change this will have you on your path to knowing at your core how to change the mindset from negative thoughts to positive ones

During your process always acknowledge that there will always be a Trial -> Error -> Redirect ->

Remember to live your live, love lots, and laugh often!