BLAMING – Everyone does it and it’s one of the biggest setbacks to success. Blaming others isn’t good for your future, joy, happiness, or fulfillment. It leaves you powerless and weak.
The opportunity is to catch yourself and start to remove it from your vocabulary. Here are a few examples as to why, below.
1. The Definition of Blame:
To assign responsibility for a fault or wrong.
Let’s talk about how often you assign responsibility for a fault or a wrong in one day. The truth is most people are doing it and they don’t even realize they are assigning responsibility to others.
2. Excuses are also blaming:
“Oh sorry, I didn’t make it on time because my boss kept me later.”
“Oh sorry, I was late because there was traffic.”
I bet you use at least one excuse a day, but have you noticed how these excuses leave you helpless and not in control of your own life?
3. Judging someone else also places blame:
“It’s their fault. They owe me an apology”
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“What about your own reflection? You see that judgement in them.. Doesn’t it say something about you?”
4. I never did that because of my PARENTS
Parents get a lot of heat for how they raised you. I know I use to put a lot of my wrongdoings in my adult life on my parents. “They with fought eachother all the time, which is why I’m not successful” or “They didn’t teach me to tools to stive in life and win in my life.”
Why are you transferring your responsibility as an adult to your parents? Nobody is stopping you from learning everything you want. Your parents aren’t saying “Sorry, as my child you can’t learn what I didn’t teach you as a kid in your adult years..”
If your parents aren’t actually holding you back.. Then what is?
It’s likely you.
WOW… this is huge..
5. STOP SUFFERING FROM BLAMING BY TAKING ALL RESPONSIBILITY:
I did it because I did it… I’ll do better next time.
“I didn’t make it on time because I didn’t communicate with my boss that I couldn’t stay late.” or “I was late because I didn’t plan traffic in and assumed everyone stayed home today and no one was using the road.” and “It’s nobody’s fault except mine… How can I be and DO BETTER?”
6. Become SELF-AWARE:
“I’m sorry I didn’t make it on time… my boss kept me late.” Wait.. did I just say that? That’s inauthentic. I was late because I need to communicate and plan my life out better.
After you say that.. What’s next?
7. Train yourself to find the GROWTH OPPORTUNITY in all situations:
You’ll feel POWERFUL. Step in your power by really being in control, when we blame others. We let other people be in control of us.
Julia Maria Nica
Life & Dream Coach
Julia grew up in Vancouver, B.C. She immigrated from Romania to Canada in the ’90s with her family. Julia decided to find her passion. Just like many women, she experienced her own self-image challenges. She came up with the idea of The YOU Series as a part of unraveling the pain of her life. Today she focuses on building The You Series, coaching her clients, and creating new content.